Stop Saying “Stay Calm”
As the environment continues to evolve and change due to the Coronavirus (COVID-19), many different viewpoints and beliefs about the how, when, what and why surrounding the virus have emerged. Now, it’s important more than ever before, to stay calm and grounded when feeling anxious and stressed. Respect, communication and support for one another is imperative during this pandemic.
We often debate with each other when there are differing opinions. However, in stressful times like this, we need to take care of our mental, as well as physical, self. Defensiveness and debating increase stress. When we are stressed mentally, physically we get worn down and that can often lead to increased susceptibility towards illnesses.
I feel this is a perfect time and opportunity to practice respect and acceptance towards others. It is simple to learn aspects of alignment and curious questioning. These communication skills lead to calm and genuine conversations, which result in feeling, thinking and acting respected and connected. And hopefully, that will result in decreasing your risk of getting sick and feeling emotionally closer to others even when practicing social distancing.
Alignment
When you agree with some or parts of what someone is saying your agreement may reduce frustrations. The person will feel heard.
Example: It’s cold in the house and your sister wants your blanket.
Old comeback: Get your own, you always want mine!
New response: Did you say you were cold? You’re right, it is cold in here.
Curious Questions
Many times, we jump to defending our position, instead of trying to be curious about what the person’s point of view is or what they are trying to say.
Same example: It’s cold in the house and your sister wants your blanket.
Old comeback: I’m cold too, this is my favorite blanket, go get your own!
New response: Have you been cold all day? Maybe check the closet or dryer? Maybe there is another blanket in the basket?